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How to get healthy without dieting?

I started my first diet when I was eleven years old, in sixth grade. I wasn’t overweight or anything close to it, but I came into the kitchen before school one morning, and my mom was making herself a chocolate milkshake for breakfast. If you can remember being eleven, you can imagine how awesome that sounded. When she told me, it was a diet shake that was supposed to help her lose weight, I thought that was even better. Even though I was just a child, I had internalized enough of the early ’90s supermodel culture to know that being thin was a good thing. My mom agreed to share her Slim-Fast with me, and 15 years later, I was still struggling every day to be happy with the food and with myself.

During that time, I tried every diet that crossed my path. In high school, I wouldn’t touch food if it had a single gram of fat. In college, carbs were the forbidden fruit – literally. I’ve eaten more cabbage soup, grapefruit halves, and boneless, skinless chicken breasts

than any human ever should. And I have to say, all these diets worked. I mean, I lost that same 10 pounds at least 20 times. So, I know how seductive diets are. I know how good it feels to work hard at something and have everyone tell you how great you look. But I also know the heartbreak that comes from trying to relax just a little and having your cheat day turn into a cheat week and then a cheat month, leaving you worse off than where you started, only with an extra layer of shame and misery that comes with failure. Restrictive diets can work amazingly well,

but only for a short period of time.

In the long run, which it turns out is what most of us actually care about, diets make losing weight and getting healthy harder – not easier. Diets create bad habits, they instill a scarcity mindset around food that often leads to bingeing, and they can even permanently alter your metabolism for the worse.

They’ve each adopted a personalized pattern of healthy habits

that works for them. The cliché thing to say is that they’ve built a healthy lifestyle. And in fact, this is the only method that seems to consistently help people lose weight and stay healthy. The problem, the reason most people aren’t able to do this is that making this elusive lifestyle change is actually really hard. But it isn’t impossible, and I believe more people could do it if they knew how to best use their time and energy. Today, I’m going to give you three ways to do this.

First, the new habits you want to create need to be intrinsically enjoyable, not simply doable or tolerable.

One of the biggest mistakes we make when trying to build healthy habits is choosing activities we don’t actually like, like pushing our workouts way beyond our fitness level

or eating flavorless foods because they’re supposed to be healthy.

This approach works in direct opposition to how your brain forms habits

and is never sustainable. For a habit to form, you need a cue or reminder: something that you can see or hear or feel, like the smell of fresh brewing coffee. This creates a desire in you to take a certain action, like getting a cup of coffee. And you do this action because you anticipate some kind of reward or satisfaction, like that warm tasty beverage and that little hit of energy that comes with it. Without that feeling of satisfaction, the cue is never reinforced and the behavior never becomes automatic.

And if it isn’t automatic, it isn’t a real habit. So, what does it mean that it needs to be intrinsically enjoyable? This means that the thing you enjoy, the reward, needs to be a property of the activity itself. So, you shouldn’t start rewarding yourself for going for a run by watching an extra hour of TV before bed. It’s not going to cut it. In fact, these extrinsic rewards, rewards that are not directly linked to the activity, have been shown to undermine motivation in the long run by turning something that you might have actually enjoyed into a chore that you can now talk yourself out of. So, you need to like the activity itself. That is your reward. In my own case, this meant falling in love with the farmer’s market. I had no idea that simple foods like carrots, cucumbers, and tomatoes could taste so much better than the ones I’d been buying my entire life at the grocery store.

I have even started to love foods I used to hate, like beets and Brussels sprouts. All of a sudden, I was excited to learn to cook. Something I’d had zero interest in for my entire life. Almost overnight, healthy eating became my joy, my default, and a lifelong new identity.

This is what an intrinsically enjoyable habit looks and feels like. Okay, so what if you don’t like to run?

Don’t. Choose a different activity that you do enjoy to get yourself moving. What if all activity feels a little daunting because you’re out of shape?

Start smaller. Choose something less strenuous that is enjoyable, like an evening stroll around the block.

Don’t worry about how many calories it burns. Worry about starting a habit that you like. The second part of your new strategy is cultivating awareness around your thoughts, actions, and emotions. The buzzword for this is mindfulness. The reason mindfulness is so important

is that your current habits occur virtually automatically?

Remember this is a defining characteristic of habits. You go through your day on autopilot, and before you know it, you’re in front of your computer munching on some chips you grabbed in the break room.

You’re probably tired and hungry, maybe not in the best mood after fighting traffic. This morning, you planned on cooking a healthy meal when you got home, but now there’s a good chance that you don’t feel like it.

This combination of fatigue, hunger, and frustration is triggering you to want calorie-rich food that does not take a lot of effort. So that easy pizza in the freezer is pulling you much more strongly than the low-calorie fish and veggies in the fridge that requires prep and cooking.

Being aware of these individual feelings, rather than simply reacting to them or trying to resist them, is a powerful skill because once you do it, you can then ask yourself if those feelings are worth acting on or if it’s worth it to do the healthier thing anyway, even if it’s a little harder today. And here’s the thing: even if in this instance you decide that you really are too tired to cook, a pizza really is the best option, that awareness can help you recognize

that there’s actually something you can do to prevent this situation in the future.

For instance, you could grab a handful of nuts before leaving the office to avoid compounding your fatigue with hunger. Or maybe the dinner you chose to cook was too ambitious or not exciting enough, and you need to choose a different meal to jump-start your new cooking habit.

New habits will almost always feel like more work the first few times you do them. But if they’re intrinsically rewarding, eventually it will start to feel like the easiest option. Mindfulness is what will help you get there. This is why I recommend developing a regular mindful practice

to develop this skill. Even if it is just a simple breathing exercise. Practicing mindfulness when it’s easy when you are not triggered, makes it much more likely you’ll succeed in the more difficult situations, you’ll face in your life. The third part of your new strategy might be the most important. It is developing a growth mindset.

“Growth mindset” is a term coined by psychologist Carol Dweck to describe the belief that you can overcome obstacles of perseverance and develop your skills with effort. A growth mindset stands in contrast to a fixed mindset, which is the belief that your talents and traits are set at birth and you can’t really change much with effort. In my experience, health is one of the most difficult areas of life to develop a growth mindset. Because when diet after diet leaves you heavier and less healthy, it’s easy to start believing that the problem is you. You start to develop a personal narrative about how you are just not a fitness person or you just love comfort food too much. When you start to believe stories like this about yourself, it becomes very difficult to make meaningful changes. This is the trap of the fixed mindset. Fortunately, a growth mindset is something you can develop. It involves understanding

that all humans are capable of learning and developing their skills.

And you are no exception.

You can learn to cook.

You can learn to like food you hated as a kid.

You can become an active person even if you hate the gym.

And you can prioritize your own self-care

even if you work long hours or have a family – or both.

Developing a growth mindset also requires understanding

that missteps are part of the learning process.

Not only do setbacks not define you,

they are opportunities to grow

and learn more about how you and the world work –

both individually and together.

If a baby falls down when learning to walk, is he a failure?

Of course not.

Rather than focusing on how things didn’t work out for you or what’s impossible to change,

someone with a growth mindset always remains focused on what is workable.

They keep their attention on their actions and the things they can control to get a different outcome next time. To cultivate this mindset in yourself,

I love Russ Harris’s suggestion to ask yourself three questions:

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